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Freedom vs Equality

I don’t know if that is the right title for this blog, hell I don’t even know if what I am about to say will make sense. I know what I am thinking, I just hope that I can relay it in a way that it is clear and understandable.

As most of you know, I am a lesbian, at least that is the label that I claim and how I live my life. I do not attempt to hide who or what I am, I live my life openly and I really don’t care if you approve of my lifestyle or not. Who I love or how I love them is really none of your business, however our society seems to think otherwise. That is kind of the point I want to make. I am not an activist, while I do voice my opinions on LGBT issues, I am not out fighting any battles.

Here in the US we are currently fighting for marriage equality, which is a noble battle, and a right I feel that we should have. I want to be able to marry my partner and to adopt her daughter as my own, but is it really that important? Most of you are probably saying yes, it is, but I am going to disagree. Our getting married is not the end all be all of the world. We still live together, we have the freedom to be together in public. While it may not be easy and we still have to put up with hate, our lives are not otherwise restricted.

Think about it for a minute, we could live in a country where it is illegal and punishable by death to be openly queer. There are still countries that allow ‘curative rape’ of lesbians, where families will allow their daughters to be gang raped by men in order to cure them of something that can’t be cured. This sickens me to no end and I do not comprehend how people can treat their fellow human beings like this.

As a country we have a long way to go, but we have made great strides in the last thirty years. Yes there is still hate and bigotry, but there always will be. We as a community do not have equal rights under the law, but we at least have the freedom to live our lives. True it may not be without fear, but at least we know that we have protection under the law from certain atrocities. Think about that and remember it is not a ‘gay’ rights issue, it’s a human rights issue.

For the straight people who read my blog, it’s not about wanting special rights, it’s about a group of citizens that want and deserve to have the same rights that you have, nothing more, nothing less.

For my LGBT family and friends, you need to remember that it could be worse. So, the next time you want to bitch about your freedom and equality, stop and think about how lucky you actually are, especially if you are one that can not hide who you are. Change will come, but it will come at it’s own time. In the mean time, enjoy the freedom you do have.

One Response to “Freedom vs Equality”

  1. December 21st, 2011 at 3:59 PM

    Maria Tehuti says:

    You are right, sister, change will come and it will mostly come through those who are not members of the LGBT family. How will this gradual change take place? In my humble opinion, the transformation will take place in the heart of those who judge. They will come to understand that at the end of the day, what counts is not your sexual preference but how you conduct yourself with others. Are you respectful? Loving? Generous? Funny and an inspiration to others? Or are you a modern day dictator who wants to impose his or her distorted views on others? The day will come when a person’s sexual orientation will be as insignificant as the colour of their eyes.

    I, for my part am straight, yet I had a dream about chanting, praying and meditating with members of the LGBT family, which resulted in me writing two books:

    “I Love It! A Spiritual Guide for Lesbians, Gays and Transgenders” and
    “Beautiful Prayers for Lesbians, Gays and Transgenders”.

    How come a straight person was able to write such books? Because we are all one. What you feel, at some level of my consciousness I will feel as well.

    To freedom, peace, love and lots of laughter!

    Maria Tehuti, Author from the soul.

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